Sunday, September 29, 2013

Happily after...

Another post inspired by The CBC, actually one line in a post by Bragadeesh.
Trainers use the term “paradigm shift” to explain a dramatic transformation, sometimes these transformations can be earth shattering for the individual concerned as the person will undergo a very big change, sometimes the biggest change in his / her life.

Falling in love is a paradigm shift. People get transformed when love strikes them and this is the love that makes lights glow, bells ring etc. Love stories keep writers, poets, movie makers busy churning out new variations of the same concept inspiring many to fall in love. In hindsight it must be one of the most fundamental feelings, a boy and a girl fall for each other.

There are many definitions for love and one of the famous lines from the Bible is probably the best description of love. For those who do not know it:


1 Corinthians 13:4-8

New Revised Standard Version (NRSV)
Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never ends.

However as I said before, falling in love is a paradigm shift and it transforms people. It makes people do things they never thought they could have done before; they break rules they would not have done before in short they become new persons. Love is good. 

The last line in the description above states love never ends, but in real life it ends at times. This can bring about the doubt if what had ended was true love. As people can fall into love, they can fall out of love, sadly for some it becomes an end.There is life beyond love. This unfortunately is not accepted by those who end up killing themselves or killing their formerly “loved one”. As love causes paradigm shifts falling out of it can also cause another shift but in most cases it will not be back to how it all started before. Love, real or otherwise tends to leave its mark and it generally cannot be wished or washed away. In my opinion a person who gets up after love ends becomes a better and wiser person.

If the greatest teacher is experience, a paradigm shift is probably one of the best lessons that one can hope to learn. It helps people discover themselves, gain hidden talents and break new barriers, so if it does not end well at least it has shown the individual something about him / her that may have been lost for ever. Sadly some people seldom realize this and do not attempt to rise up from a fall, they decide that the fall is the end and decide to end it. If only they chose to pause, look at themselves and realize how much love has changed them. There is life after love, for those who choose to make the choice.

As they say it is better to have loved and lost than never have loved at all.

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Susan Deborah said...

Well, I think love keeps evolving from the first flutter to the last breath. It is a verb that manifests itself in many simple actions and loving someone is a reflection of ourselves.

Paradigm shift is too simple an assertion, me thinks. It's much more.

Joy always,

Anonymous said...

Right now, I'm dealing with many of my close friends and cousins who had to face unfortunate situations in their love life. I'm unable to find words to console them. Posts like these would definitely help me a lot. A much needed read for me.

//There is life after love, for those who choose to make the choice// Very well said. :)

mahesh said...

Thanks for sharing this post Clement well-written :) The quote from The Bible was very thoughtful and apt!

mahesh said...

Thanks for sharing this post Clement well-written :) The quote from The Bible was very thoughtful and apt!