Tuesday, February 08, 2011

Wine matures with age...

Driving past the girls college on Cathedral road in the afternoon, out of habit I looked at the girls in the bus stop and realized that this was not a girls college any more...

I asked D in the passenger seat and she agreed that most of those standing looked like ladies and not girls. Rudely said they look old and mature.

Some where the freshness of youth was missing what was visible atleast to our eyes were young women mature and old on the threshold of life. I wondered if things were the same when we were in college so many years ago and we believe it was not. Collegians still looked right, in between school and the higher studies or workplace, the problem I believe is deeper. During a carol competition last December many of the school students were unbelievably huge and looked more like post graduates (at the risk of sounding very very rude) than high schoolers, and high school of the Indian type not what is shown on Hollywood movies.

I suppose it is the system and the excessive pressure that parents put on their kids these days that kids have grown up earlier than they should. At 2 a play school, the very term is offensive, why put play and school together? You don't need to be schooled to play and you don't need a school charging astronomical fees to teach kids to play. Then a competitive school, cram a few tuitions, sports, music, and every thing else the parents could not till the kid becomes a master who can multitask and handle any challenge the world will throw at him / her.

From the age of 2 a kid is groomed for tomorrow so much to the point that many kids are already seeing tomorrow today. I read some where that kids are hitting puberty earlier than before, it may be natural but I believe it has been made natural by so many external and often unnecessary factors.

My doctor ticked me off for spending time on my interests on Sundays, he said that on Sunday nothing is more important that playing with my daughter. The key word here is play with the daughter and no, I am not getting PSX.

These ladies on the road were a wake up call for me that I will play with my daughter as much as I can and let her discover tomorrow on her own terms as much as I can. If she finds it a day later, I must learn to understand it is not the end of the world and that the best thing in the world is the present and that is why it is called a gift. (quote from Kung fu panda)


Divia said...

We discussed this and good you made up your mind to play with Trinity but why restrict it to sundays?!

!! Oxymoron !! said...

I think it'll be lovely for Trinity to have her daddy play bulldozers and dump trucks with her!!!!